All the time

You hear it all the time “having kids ruins your sex life”, “once you get married you stop having sex”.........

And yes to a point most of this is rubbish.

Most of it.....

But what about the parts that are true? 

Well yes, having kids does hinder your sex life somewhat.  I mean when they are babies you are lucky to even get sleep and have enough energy to get on with the day never mind have sex!

If you are really unlucky you could get post natal depression which goes hand in hand on killing your sex drive.

Then they get older and if you are lucky enough they sleep during the day which means when they have finished running round your feet 20000 times a day you can nap when they do.  Or even find some time for a quickie.  Something along the lines of “quick he’s asleep we have 20 minutes”....

Once they get much older they start to learn about things and what you are doing and that is just cringe worthy.

So what do you do?  How do you get it all back?  You know the way you were when you first got together, the way you took any chance possible to have sex anywhere whenever.

Or maybe the question is how did I get it back?

Well the answer is sex toys.

Yes.  I found sex toy websites and even joined a forum to talk about sex.  And the more toys I bought and talked about sex the more sex I wanted and the more my sex drive came back!

I started testing toys and the thrill of trying new things, things I never thought I would ever want to try, made us closer.  The spark came back, our relationship was no longer doomed.  I no longer wanted to avoid sex, I wanted it more and more!

Sex toys are still a subject that is taboo in some circles and I don’t see why!  They are not a replacement in your sex life but a extension of your sex life.  A way to explore new and exciting things with your partner or without.